Being happy with yourself is not the easiest thing to do. Yes, there are people out there who were naturally “born” with confidence, but a lot of people were not. However, this does not mean that we cannot achieve the level of confidence we need to be happy with ourselves. I have come up with four important changes to make in your mindset in order to be happy with yourself. Are you ready?
1. Stop comparing yourself to others
The first change we have to make in our mindset is to stop constantly comparing ourselves to other people. Yes, there is ALWAYS going to be someone who is just going to have one body part that you are going to prefer over yours. It is of no use to keep comparing yourself and putting yourself down for something that you do not have and do not need. You are perfectly perfect as you are. This brings me to the next point:
2. Stop trying to imitate others
The second change that we have to make in our mindset it to stop trying to imitate other people. First of all, you are never going to be exactly like someone else, so why try? Secondly, you are the only you there is. Isn’t it wonderful to know that nobody on this planet will ever be you? You are unique and that in itself makes you beautiful.
3. Stop seeking validation through other people
The third change we have to make in our mindset is to stop seeking validation through other people. A common thing we do when we are not happy with ourselves is to seek validation from others through compliments or attention. This is not the right foundation to base your happiness on.
If your happiness depends on compliments or attention from other people, you are setting yourself up for unhappiness. There are simply always going to be people that are going to criticize you or not like you, and that is completely fine. You do not have to be liked by the entire world to be happy.
If you are yourself – as crazy as that may be – you will eventually find people similar to you in their character or in their preferences. That could be one, two, three people, but those people will make you so much happier than all those other people combined.
4. Stop trying to reach “perfection”
The last change we have to make in our mindset is to stop trying to reach perfection. If we try to reach perfection, we are always going to find something that we are not going to like about ourselves, whether it’s our weight, our hair, our face, our eyebrows, or our hips. The point is, nobody is perfect. Maybe in your eyes you think that someone is perfect, but everybody has flaws. The key is to embrace your imperfections. Yes, there are things that you can change about yourself, such as your weight or your hair color, but please, do not lose yourself in this downward spiral.
Of course, being critical is a good thing to some extent, because you only grow better when you keep challenging yourself and keep looking at yourself with a critical eye. However, there is a limit and it is very important to your happiness that you do not cross that limit. You are absolutely wonderful and there is no reason why you should not love yourself.
The bottom line
Like I have said in previous articles, your happiness is what counts and constantly criticizing yourself will not make you happy. Remember, loving yourself and being happy with yourself is not going to be something that is going to happen overnight. It requires time and patience, but eventually you will be able to get where you want to be. Some may get there quicker than others, but do not lose hope, we are in this together. Love yourself, and don’t forget to smile! 🙂