Best friends, regular friends, summer friends… everyone has different types of friends and that’s alright. There is one type of friend, however, that should be avoided and that is: a fake friend.
How do to distinguish true friends from fake friends
It is not always easy to recognize fake friends and that’s why I made a list of questions. Depending on your answers to these basic questions, you will be able to distinguish fake friends from real friends:
- Do they know your last name or birthday?
- How often does that person contact you?
- Do they contact you every other day or every other month?
- What topics do you usually talk about?
- Do the topics have a deeper meaning or is it mainly gossip about other people?
- Do they only contact you when they need something from you?
- Are they (never) there when you need something?
- Do you mainly hang out with them at parties?
The fake friends checklist
In general, fake friends:
- Do not know basic things about you, such as your last name, birthday or whether you have brothers or sisters.
- Do not contact you first and when they do, it is mainly because they need something from you.
- Only gossip with you.
- Party with you but never speak to you elsewhere.
- Smile in your face, but talk poorly about you behind your back.
- Break their promises and cannot be relied upon.
The good news
The good news about fake friends is that they make us realize that true friends are rare. So when we do have a more meaningful friendship with someone, we must nourish the relationship. Friendships are one of the most important aspects of life, since true friends will be there for you at every part of day and night, ready to comfort you or cheer with you.
True friendships know no borders or distance because when you do see them, it is like you never split in the first place!
How to nourish a friendship
Once you do find a true friend, it is important to nourish the relationship. Some of the ways to nourish a friendship is by:
- Having regular contact
- Exchanging ideas and opinions
- Sharing intimate details of life
- Building trust
- Communicating respectfully if an argument occurs
- Valuing their opinions
Friendships – like any type of relationship – require time and dedication. Remember, a friendship is not an exchange of goods and services, it is not a contract; it is a genuine and loving union which if nourished with care, will last for an eternity!